When you love someone from the bottom of your heart, when someone means the world to you and you can go out of the way to make that person happy, agreed, you feel secure and delighted to be with that person. True, you can’t do without that person and when in that loved one's company, you feel you are on top of the world!

But hold on... Are you making yourself dependent on someone, while being in a relationship? Are you overly relying on a person who may not be there with you tomorrow? While dreaming of being together, are you accepting a complete dependence on the person? Is it not increasing your dependency on the 'supposed special someone'? Isn't the relationship making you weaker...?

In the relationship, yes you the person are weaker.  But with that special someone both of you are stronger than one could ever be by themselves.  There is a saying that when you find that special someone you become a better person because that special someone opens your eyes to something that truly matters in this realm known as earth.  It is through dependence that we truly find a gem among the pebbles of our lives, and truly begin living.

Dependency comes when the partner is expected to complete your imperfections. Also remember that the same is expected from you by him/her.

Leave behind the poetic and romantic ideas you have about love. No one is here to fulfill your fantasies. Accept yourself for the person you are and then accept somebody's love. THis is definitely unconditional love where you grow stronger because you dont ask for anything impossible.

heyyy i guess "unity is strength"

if there is an attachment in the unity then it should be more stronger than it seems and if you supposed to love someone more than yourself it means that your not dependant on the other its just says that you are with the other to help him in any manner , in any way, in any condition,

and i guess thats the truth of the relationship

and if you will think like this as you said then it must be weeken you slowly

Relationshipt is gift of god.Arstu rightly said that man is social animal.so we can not ignore the relationship.i am not agree relationship make weak becouse it give the power in diffcult stage.when we get alone relationship remove the loneliness.we are bound with relationship. when we meet any person we make new relation with him.we feel happy.why pepole marry? why pepole born child some region behid it. some rule and restriction are made for pepole.if flow the rule we surive in the world with happily.when i got in difficulty and trouble i remember my parents,relative and friend thanks god of relationship which make strong myself.we have to marry becose we need such type of relationship where we can share our feelings and emotion.with love relationship we spend whole life with one life partner.

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rizvi khan.............

It's surely got to work both ways, hasn't it? To really love someone, you have to open yourself up to possibly being hurt, rejected or ridiculed, but what a feeling when that person is loyal and loving and accepts you for who you are! In a serious relationship, you're under no illusions that it will be hearts & flowers all the way, but if you can get through it then you feel like a pair of world beaters.

"Give & Take" may be an old-fasioned concept in these days of instant gratification and disposable 'Hello' relationships, but I don't want to end up bitter & lonely when I'm elderly just because I was selfish in my younger years.  

You can love someone with all your being and not only depend on them. Yes in part you grow weaker as individuals bc you are growing stronger together as one, but it doesn't have to be a weakness in your life. It should be a blessing. It is unhealthy to have no life besides them, and that can be the one downfall to watch out for. If you have no other friends, or job, or hobby then yes that can bring your life down, especially if it does not work out with that person. So yes, don't fear, give them your all emotionally. If things are correct and ya'll are meant to be, you will become stronger and grow in happiness and dont let fear of depending on someone bring you down. In part they will have your dependence, but should be from your heart not all of your life. It is ok to still have activities and dependency with and on others in life, they don't have to have it all, even with complete love. If it is true love, it will coexist with anything in your current life, as well as theirs, and bring them together, bringing neither down.